| Q1. All the treatments we've given him have helped in the sense that they were able to regain control of the disease, to keep it from getting worse, at least temporarily […] with hormone-dependent cancers such as breast cancer, we can, with medical treatments such as radiation therapy or hormone therapy prevent or at least slow down the advance of the disease and so give the patient uh a hope of survival uh of several years without being able to be more precise and with a quality of life that we hope will be the least poor possible (Physician). |
| Q2. It's very effective, that is, he's in complete remission. The scanner no longer shows anything (Physician). |
| Q3. Well, no because there is no problem. It's with the exams that we see it. When he does the chemo, there are also the blood counts and all that. And then once the PSA is really low, we stop. When the PSA goes down, that gives us a little hope (Family member). |
| Q4. If she weren't there. I don't think that I'd be here. She's done everything, absolutely everything. She does everything for me. […] when she talks, I'm cured. Almost (Patient). |
| Q5. After you have to adapt to each phase. Her reaction, her behavior about what the patient is experiencing. To try to understand, support, sometimes hide your own fears because... you don't have the right to add … well, I don’t think that you have the right to add on to the patient's worries. On the contrary, you have to keep the energy level up (Family member). |
| Q6. You take it on yourself. You can't let him see that you have no hope. You're the only person he has in the world. If you show little signs of weakness, he's not going to do well. So you take it on yourself. … What I say is: one cancer = two deaths. … …And I don't think I'm wrong (Family member). |
| Q7. It was the hardest moment for me because I was so weak, well, I hid everything, I didn't want to inflict it on my husband so, I'm telling you, I would go upstairs to the bedroom and I... I did absolutely nothing, I sat in an armchair and as soon as I heard someone coming upstairs, I reacted so that ... they wouldn't see, because I didn't want to make everyone miserable (Patient). |
| Q8. One day I had a chemo treatment that was hard. I could hardly walk. So Friday morning I said to my wife, let's load the truck and I'll go at 2 this afternoon, I'm going to S. to set up the bingo. Good, she says to me. She is brave. Ok. It takes some time to load all that. There's a whole list. It doesn’t look like much but you need quite a lot. I started to load it but I couldn't. I tried but I couldn't. She told me to go lie down, she'd do it. I went to lie down. I woke up at a quarter to four. She had loaded the truck, and she helped me to climb in. The neighbor across the street said to us, don't go, you're going to kill yourself, he's not capable of driving. I said, yes, yes, yes, yes. I'm sitting in my truck, good. Exit the courtyard, perfectly straight, first, second, indicator, turn right, 5th gear then 6th. After 25 km I'm 80% ok (Patient). |
| Q9. [Talking about his wife with cancer] physical therapy or yoga, to maintain flexibility, mobility and a sense of mastery over the physical body. So inside you’ve lost control…but outside you feel control of your body (Family)that helped her so much to be able, even, just to move her arm and since the PT (physical therapist) was nice, so she said really good things about it [..] he laughed with her, told her jokes, and so uh, he gave her confidence (Family member). |
| Q10. I don't know if her family… her family is a little blurred. I've seen her come with her partner, who is kind of mysterious. I don't know if he's got a very important place in her life. I learned today that he lives in Bordeaux while she lives in Paris. Well you know… I must have seen him twice. I don't think he was here the first time. I don't remember. He is a little transparent (Physician). |
| Q11. The first chemo was very good, the second uh a little less good , the third still less good and the fourth was truly awful […] he was so sick that he said, I think I've had it! (Family member). |
| Q12. The treatment, it cuts both ways, it doesn't do her any good in the sense that she could... she wasn't eating much, she wasn't moving much, but it helped in the sense that she needed the treatment to get better (Family). |
| Q13. [speaking about her job as social worker] How do you want me to counsel anyone now, I'm not myself, I can't anymore, I'm afraid I'm going to crack up. You have to stay calm (...) Now I'm incapable of that, I fall apart or I get crazy angry (...) and I don't have the right to do that (Patient). |
| Q14. It's horrible because you're not the same, you don't have the same desires, or the same priorities and the other person, who you live with, doesn't understand you anymore (Patient) |
| Q15. The most ... what you felt the most was the chemo. Because chemo, it’s the physical, destructive effect, physical destruction causing a mental shock. So that was the hardest (Family member). |
| Q16. She said to Dr M, she said to him, well, I feel that things are going well, and I’m telling you that on July 6, I’m going to Avignon and I am going to stay there a month. Deal with it. I am totally confident. Do your job as a doctor and I, I will do everything you tell me to do, but I’m going to Avignon. […] and Dr M said, “Oh, ok,” because he knew that with her, if he said no, she was going to be depressed, he would be eliminating what’s the most important thing for her all year, that’s Avignon [Avignon’s theatre festival]… Dr M knows that and that’s why he is so great, because he never kept her from doing something that she said, ‘I want to do it.’ (Family member). |
| Q17. And then, now, he [the doctor] is with me, he will stay with me. He will support me, I'm sure. After a while, you get the idea that there is nothing to do because, in fact, my cancer, it's not getting better! (Patient). |
| Q18. There's a kind of intimacy or in any case, much deeper confidence that has developed since then because she was always saying, "I want to get out of this, I want to get better, saying all the time that she knows she won't be cured, but that she wants to pull through (Physician) |
| Q19. She was pretty exceptional, in any case, I found her very courageous, she's a fighter, and she’s someone who's fairly cheerful. Finally I find her very pleasant. Good. There are plenty of things that make a patient pleasant, I find. (Physician). |
| Q20. I was really in bad shape and so tired besides that I said to myself that I wasn't well ... um, I had really, you can't call it depression but I really was not well.Interviewer: The bluesYeah, really but major, because really I didn’t feel like getting up, I didn't want anything, the telephone it was, I just didn’t want it, it was too hard, everything was complicated, hard to do, nothing was going right and I didn't want anything (Patient).This patient profile and I realize now, it's also those who I ask perhaps not so much because they give the impression they're doing ok and finally um there it is, I wonder less about their family, about a solitude that exists perhaps but she uh doesn't seem to be suffering from it anyway (her physician). |
| Q21. The people I treat, that I see, um, there's a framework, a profile, there are people I can't treat, for example, people who are too passive, who aren't active in their disease, here, these are people who are perfectly active; you say something to them, they think about it, they say yes or they say no, they think about it, I mean, they’re not like I come here, and I just wait for it to be over, they’re not like that (Physician). |