| a) | • Screen all the women who have an intimate partner,
irrespective of relationship issues.• Offer universal
education and share resources on IPV support. |
• “How are the things at home?”
• “I ensure every client I work with has information about IPV support so
that it can be stopped or prevented in future….”
• “You may feel free to call or share your difficulties with
me.”
• Would it be OK if I sent you a list of available resources?”
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| b) | • Handling the technical difficulties during the
tele-sessions. | Check at the beginning of the session about predictable technical issues such as
low battery, expected power shut down, and poor network. Offer to reschedule at a
later point in time. |
| c) | • Prepare to address the survivor’s safety during the
tele-sessions.• Be cognizant of red flags such as
injuries or non-verbal behavioral cues that may indicate that the survivor is at
risk of immediate danger by the perpetrator. Example:
Not making eye contact (if using a video session), hearing adult voices in the
background, prolonged silence/pause (if using telephone
session).• If red flags are present, frame the topic
using a general statement and then, if safe, follow up with a question more
specific to IPV. | • “While we are in the middle of a session, if you feel threatened by
the presence of your spouse/partner, you may indicate it to me using our agreed
code.”• Predetermine gestures or signs and
symbols that will not alert the perpetrator, such as nodding “yes” or “no”;
raising a hand; using a common hand gesture; using a code word such as “rose”/
“water,” switching to a neutral topic such as weather, menstruation, room décor;
texting a particular mutually agreed on emoji, etc.• “Sometimes,
the session may be interrupted by your spouse/partner, which I may not be aware
of. In such situations, do you want me to reach out to you to ensure your
safety?”• If not, say, “Let me know
that you need help, by sending me agreed-upon codes, so that I can call the
emergency support team right away.• If yes,
then proceed with the following direct questions• “Is it a
convenient time to talk?”• “Is it safe for us to speak
right now?”• “Do you feel safe with your partner right
now?”• “Do you feel afraid of your
partner?”• “Have you been physically hurt by your
partner?”• “Does your spouse (or partner) control what
you do, whom you see or talk to, or where you go? |
| d) | • If you suspect IPV, but the survivor refuses to disclose it,
acknowledge the survivor’s response and indicate that you are available to help if
they feel their safety is threatened.• Provide
information on available community resources that the survivor can use in the
future during a crisis or share with family and friends. |
• “I know it is hard to talk about what you are going through…. I am
concerned about you and would like to know how things are at home. Is everything
OK with you at home?”
• “I ask these to all the women, especially when I see injuries. Is
everything OK with your relationship? Is anyone hurting you?”
• “I often come across women who have been experiencing trouble at
home.”
• “I am concerned about you and your children’s safety. Do you feel safe
in your relationship?”
• “Thank you for sharing your concern about your relationship. If
anything bothers you and you become worried about the safety of yourself and
your children, feel free to talk to us.”
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Step 2: Responding to a Disclosure of DV/IPV
| Assessment Questions |
| e) | • Acknowledge the disclosure•
Re-check if it is safe to talk further.• During the
session, pay attention to their tone and provide verbal cues encouraging the
survivor to express her feelings. | • “Talking about relationship issues with others can be
challenging….”• “It appears like you have been dealing
with this violence from your spouse/partner for quite some time
now.”• “I am glad you have made an effort to seek
support. It must have been hard all along. How have you been handling it
alone?”• “I am worried and concerned
about your safety and health….” |
| f) | • Assess the risk of danger to the survivor and her
children.• The survivor may be unable to leave home
due to their spouse/partner’s use of coercion and
control.• Emphasize that violence is never
OK.• Reassure that help is available. | Specific questions related to risk assessment are:• “Are you in
immediate danger recently?”• “Has violence gotten
worse of late?”• “Is it happening more often than
before?”• “Has your spouse/partner used a weapon on
you before?”• “Has your spouse/partner been using
alcohol or drugs excessively in recent times?”• “Has
your spouse/partner anytime threatened to kill you and/or your
children?” |
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Step 3: Planning and Offering Psychosocial Interventions
| Assessment Questions |
| g) | • Listen and validate their feelings | • “It must have been difficult for you to talk about
this.”• “ Whatever may be the situation, abuse is
unacceptable.”• “It is not your fault. You are not to
be blamed for your spouse/partner’s behavior.”• “You
are not alone. You don’t deserve to be abused.” |
| h) | • Work with the situation as prioritized by the
survivor.• If required, provide referral to relevant
service providers such as legal support, police, or NGO. |
• “If I could help you with one thing right now, what would you want it
to be?”
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| i) | • Explore their support system.•
Survivors of IPV may often experience isolation. You may be one of the few
individuals to whom they may be talking. |
• “It appears like you are all alone dealing with your problem right
now.”
• “Do you have a friend or close relative with whom you can share your
worries?”
• “Would you feel OK if we get connected in the future to know what is
happening with you?”
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| j) | • Assess the risk of immediate danger and make safety
plans. | Indirect assessment• Assess the
physical environment by asking the survivor to show their space/
background.• Other safety practices such as deleting
internet browsing history, call history, and text messages to the therapist and
creating a separate confidential email account for easy communication with the
therapist should also be used.Direct
questions• “I am worried about the safety of you and
your children. We can together discuss and plan for your
safety.”• “Who all can access your mobile phone or
computer/laptop? Would it be OK if you delete the caller history or messages
from your gadget so that your partner won’t find it
out?”• “Could you rename the information shared with
you and save it as a hidden/password-protected file?” |
| k) | • Help to deal with stressors due to relationship issues |
• “During this stressful situation, what things do you do to feel
better?”
• “I have contacts of a few resources that may help you find new ways to
take care of yourself. Would you like to have them?”
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| i) | • Document referrals and future plans. Schedule a
follow-up tele-visit. |