| Ageism |
The doctor said to me, “Well, you know, she’s old.” And
then I blew up. I said, “Her age has nothing to do with
this. She is in pain, she can’t walk, she hurts.”
(Caregiver)
When you’re older, they don’t expect you to know
anything . . . and they discount you immediately.
(Patient)
Talked down to you as if you’re a child. That’s right,
yes. You’re a responsible adult. You understand perfectly
well what’s going on. They should treat you as such.
(Patient)
There’s a stigma to dealing with older seniors . . .
that we’re going to die anyway. So, minimal service.
(Patient)
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| Abandonment |
You feel like you’re being abandoned . . . You just feel
like nobody cares. Everybody’s just passing you by and
nobody cares. (Patient)
I think they forgot about me. Nobody came. And they shut
off the lights at the desk that was down at the end and I
think they moved into that observation room or holding cell,
as I called it. (Patient)
If you’re alone, you have to go in by yourself and
you’re in a strange place. Like I was in here for three days
and I was in the emergency, had nobody with me.
(Patient)
If you do not have a family member to come in and help
you, you do not get a bath, you do not get shaved, you do
not get washed. (Patient)
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| Loss of dignity |
I thought, “Well, where’s the call button?” Well, the
call button was behind the bed, so that wasn’t very
successful. I ended up having to pee in my pants, and then I
felt really bad. (Patient)
I almost felt like I’d been degraded, like I was stupid
and didn’t know what these drugs did to me.
(Patient)
They made me sit there on the commode and the hallway’s
right there the curtain is open. And I’m on this commode and
I have to go so bad, I don’t care who’s seeing me. And
people are going by and they look. There’s no privacy. And
then when I was finished, it took them so long to come and
get the commode. It was just absolutely terrible.
(Patient)
We both were in that waiting room for about seven hours
and he just continually was throwing up and they never did
anything—it was sad but it was also hard on me to watch . .
. finally, they saw me. But, if they would just check if he
needed a clean dish . . . And I thought, “This is not even
human.” (Caregiver)
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| Communication | They just rushed in, rushed out, rushed back. Just
hurry, hurry, hurry a lot. And you know, “Don’t worry, we’ll
talk about that later. We’ll explain that some other time,
but this has to be done now first.” And it was a lot of
pressure. (Patient)
When they start knocking these terms off, well
they’re all Dutch to me. Let’s put it—my ignorance is, kind
of slow to some of that stuff. And also their speech if they
speak too fast, I don’t grasp it. (Patient)
It was about two weeks after [discharge
from the ED] that I noticed a piece of paper with all
those instructions. Now they had not read them to me, and no
one here did. I thought, “Oh, I’m supposed to be doing this
and I was supposed to be doing that.” So, make sure the
patient is talked to again. Not just, “Here’s a paper. Go.”
(Patient)
You have 90 year old people taking their husband
or their wife to the emergency room, and they’re just lost.
They get no help, they get no respect, they get nothing . .
. nobody explains things to them properly.
(Caregiver) |
| Failure to accommodate for age-related changes | I also can’t see very well, I’m told. I have macular and
a hearing aid . . . [providers] have to
make sure they can hear and you have to make sure they can
see . . . They hand you something and leave, they’re gone.
So you sit there with a paper in front of you and don’t know
what to do. (Patient)
You need to figure out if they’re deaf or if
they’ve forgotten their hearing aids, and that like they
might not be answering you but just because they cannot
hear. (Patient)
If it’s somebody who’s deaf, or whatever there,
needs to be somebody, a family member or somebody there.
(Patient)
Sometimes the writing you can’t read the
writing, okay and that’s the simple answer. Sometimes it’s
those words, what does this mean? And then you know, and the
instructions are given to you verbally . . . that’s not how
most people remember things. (Patient) |
| Lack of responsiveness to the discharge needs of older
adults | Well, they’ve done what they can for you, they’ve told
you what to do. And if you can’t do it well, too bad.
(Patient)
My feeling was that discharge was actually a
punt. And so they kicked me out, and then okay, now that’s
my problem and I don’t even know what the playbook is.
(Patient)
So you’re on your own when you go out
[discharge]. You look after yourself the best you can.
(Patient)
One o’clock in the morning, out of a dead sleep,
we get a phone call. “Your father in-law can go home.” There
just doesn’t seem like there’s any understanding about the
other end of the deal. (Caregiver) |
| Physical environment | I decided that is such a filthy washroom I don’t want to
go in there at any time. (Patient)
I couldn’t see nothing. It was always dark and
there’s nothing more confusing than that. That should not
be. (Patient)
If you have someone chained there from the jail,
they’re right beside you [in the ED] . . .
And that made me feel really uncomfortable.
(Patient)
No privacy for end of life decisions. And
you’re—it’s being done in passing, with other people around,
within earshot. There’s times in your life when you need
some privacy. (Patient) |