| Literature DB >> 27617096 |
Kye L McCarthy1, Kate L Lewis1, Marianne E Bourke1, Brin F S Grenyer1.
Abstract
BACKGROUND: Engaging parents who have a personality disorder in interventions designed to protect children from the extremes of the disorder supports both parenting skills and healthy child development. In line with evidence-based guidelines, a 'Parenting with Personality Disorder' brief intervention was developed, focusing on child safety, effective communication and parenting strategies.Entities:
Keywords: Attitudes; Borderline personality disorder; Brief intervention; Parenting
Year: 2016 PMID: 27617096 PMCID: PMC5017053 DOI: 10.1186/s40479-016-0044-2
Source DB: PubMed Journal: Borderline Personal Disord Emot Dysregul ISSN: 2051-6673
Project Air Strategy Key Principles for Clinicians Working with Parents with Personality Disorders
| Prioritise child safety and encourage parents to do the same | |
| Listen to parenting struggles in a non-judgemental and accepting manner | |
| Focus on building trust and rapport, as parents with mental illness can feel vulnerable | |
| Recognise and value parents’ strengths and positive attributes | |
| Re-affirm that the goal is to be a ‘good enough’ parent, not perfect | |
| Help the parent to keep their child’s needs and feelings in mind despite mental illnesssometimes getting in the way | |
| Help parents to facilitate open discussion with their child about what is happening in the home, including discussing the parent’s mental health issues and their diagnosis | |
| Ensure a family crisis plan is in place for when the parent is very unwell | |
| Help parents with parenting skills, including age-appropriate ways of relating to their child and setting firm and kind limits to protect everyone | |
| Where possible seek opportunities to protect children from being distressed by mental illness | |
| Ensure children have the best possible chance to grow up normally, and prioritise ensuring they attend school and have time to join in with their peers |
Key Strategies of the Parenting with Personality Disorder Intervention
| Strategy 1: Engage the parent to reinforce safety for all. Building a collaborative relationship regarding parenting; delivering key parenting messages; and completing a Family Crisis Care Plan to support child protection and family safety. | |
| Strategy 2: Improve communication and strive to separate parenting from personality disorder. Skills in talking to children about personality disorder, protecting children from personality disorder symptoms, setting firm but fair limits to reinforce safety and security. | |
| Strategy 3: Improve relationships. Reflect on the relationship between the parent and child, skills for mindful parenting and understanding emotions, reinforce the importance of treatment for mental health issues and self-care and self-compassion in parenting. |
Family Case Study: Parenting with Personality Disorder
| Sam is a 31 year old single mother of three children, Ethan aged 14 years, Jack aged 8 years, and Mia aged 3 years. Sam loves her children, and wants the best for them. Sam has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, and has difficulties managing relationships and stormy emotions, often using self-harm to cope when she feels overwhelmed. Sam has been working with a mental health clinician to reflect on her relationships with her children and on the choices she makes in caring for them on a daily basis, as small actions can make a big difference in her family. Sam and her clinician have been talking about the following choices Sam has recently been faced with: | |
| 1. Sam was in the bathroom and had cut herself. Jack was worried about where his mum was, and knocked on the door, asking her to let him in. Sam was feeling overwhelmed, alone, and was wishing for someone to support her, and her initial response was to open the door to seek support from Jack. However, she then took some time to reflect and consider her choices and how they would impact on her son. She then chose to tell Jack that she was ok and was washing her face, and would be out shortly. She asked him to watch TV with his sister. Sam engaged in some self-care, and washed and bandaged her arm before joining the children to watch cartoons. This choice protected Jack from being exposed to her self-harm. | |
| 2. Sam was sitting on the lounge in a dissociative state. She was caught up in painful memories and feelings from the past. Her daughter Mia wanted to play, and came over to Sam, tapping on her leg and calling to her “Mummy, Mummy.” Sam felt irritated by this, and conflicted about providing for her young daughter when she didn’t receive nurturance in her own childhood. Sam had a choice to yell at Mia, and push her away, or to put aside her worries and memories for a little while to be with Mia and play with her in the present moment. She chose to join in the play session, which strengthened her bond with Mia and allowed her to experience positive new feelings to replace older ones. | |
| 3. Sam was having a fight with her boyfriend over the phone and was becoming increasingly distressed. The children were in the kitchen, and Ethan was packing lunches and getting everyone ready for school. Sam was feeling abandoned by her boyfriend, and had a choice to seek further support from Ethan and ask him to stay home from school to be with her, or to take charge of getting the children to school before seeking support from appropriate services, so that she would not burdening her son. Choosing to ensure all children attended school helped them maintain contact with their learning and peers, and provided respite so that Sam could attend counselling. |
Fig. 1Mean Clinician Ratings of Acceptability of the Brief Intervention. Legend: The scale scores are from 1 indicating ‘not useful’ to 4 indicating ‘very useful’
Fig. 2Leximancer concept map of clinician identified core features of the brief intervention model (n = 165)