Hazardous secrets and reluctantly taking charge: parenting a child with repeated hospitalizations.

This study developed a grounded theory of the stresses and coping responses of parents to the repeated hospitalization of chronically ill and disabled children. The theoretical sampling spanned four years and included 30 mothers of children who have a chronic illness or disability and 30 mothers of healthy children; 100 parents of disabled children who attended a weekend retreat: six community health nurses; nine mothers of chronically ill and disabled children before, during and after a hospitalization. The resulting mid-range theory identifies the most stressful aspect as "hazardous secrets" which force the parent to "reluctantly take charge" of the situation. "Vigilance", "calling a halt", "exhaustion" and "taking a break" are key constructs in the process. "Trusting parent and professional relationships" emerged only when a professional assisted in revealing secrets.