Parent development.

Today's parents tend to be overwhelmed with advice from many sources. In his role as family counselor, the pediatrician must understand and consider the emotional development of parents in relation to their child's development; otherwise, his advice and counsel do not "take" and he becomes tired and frustrated and angry. PARENTS PROGRESS THROUGH DEFINITE STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT: Stage 1: Learning the cues-the struggle of the parents to interpret the infant's needs. Stage 2: Learning to accept growth and development-the parent learning to accept some loss of control of the toddler. Stage 3: Learning to separate-the parent learning to allow the child to develop independently. Stage 4: Learning to accept rejection, without deserting-the struggle of the parents not to intrude and yet to be there when needed. Stage 5: Learning to build a new life having been thoroughly discredited by one's teenager-the parent learning to live independently while the teenager struggles to develop his own identity.The pediatrician who is accepting, sensitive and a good listener and who keeps in mind that parents as well as children have capacities for growth and development, will be a potent factor in promoting good parent-child relationships and many times more effective in dealing with the child in health and disease.