Parenthood as talked about in Swedish ante- and postnatal midwifery consultations. A qualitative study of 58 video-recorded consultations.

In order to explore the manner in which parenthood was discussed in midwifery consultations, 58 video-recorded consultations were analysed. A content analysis revealed a variety of topics concerning conversation on parenthood--topics of an intimate nature and discussions from a societal perspective. Parenthood was not of primary importance in visits, which were mostly directed by the midwives. A phenomenological hermeneutic analysis of the meaning of being a mother revealed a complex and difficult situation of being both needed and dependent. The meaning of being a father revealed a struggle between distancing from and closeness to the child. The mate relationship was indicated as important and under strain. The metaphor of the 'spiders web', where the mother is the spider with the child mostly on her back, the father entering the web on her terms, summarizes the understanding. The results from this study could provide a basis for reflection on the status of the topic of parenthood, on the meaning of being a mother and a father disclosed in the consultations, and ultimately on the organization of ante- and postnatal midwifery care.